It is important to note that individuals may be unassertive in specific situations e. This can add a sense of confusion and dissonance, as the individual knows that they are capable of being assertive.
Preview All Resources. Premium Feature Emailing resources to clients is restricted to only the Advanced and Team plans. Editable version PPT Powerpoint. Description Assertiveness is a manner of communicating and a relational style used by individuals to express their needs confidently, openly, and in a positive manner.
Theories of assertiveness Psychological theory has typically sought to account for a lack of assertiveness, or to explain why individuals are not able to be assertive. Instructions The handout can be used to explore client beliefs about assertiveness.
References Butler, G. Oxford University Press. Heimberg, R. Cognitive and behavioral models of assertive behavior: Review, analysis and integration. Clinical Psychology Review , 1 3 , Linehan, M. DBT Skills training manual. Guilford Publications. Now consider passive-aggressive behavior. If you communicate in a passive-aggressive manner, you may say yes when you want to say no.
You may be sarcastic or complain about others behind their backs. Rather than confront an issue directly, you may show your anger and feelings through your actions or negative attitude. You may have developed a passive-aggressive style because you're uncomfortable being direct about your needs and feelings.
What are the drawbacks of a passive-aggressive communication style? Over time, passive-aggressive behavior damages relationships and undercuts mutual respect, which makes it difficult for you to get your goals and needs met. Being assertive is usually viewed as a healthier communication style. Assertiveness offers many benefits. It helps you keep people from taking advantage of you. It can also help you from acting like a bully to others. Learning to be more assertive can also help you effectively express your feelings when communicating with others about issues.
People develop different styles of communication based on their life experiences. Your style may be so ingrained that you're not even aware of what it is. People tend to stick to the same communication style over time. But if you want to change your communication style, you can learn to communicate in healthier and more effective ways. Remember, learning to be assertive takes time and practice.
If you've spent years silencing yourself, becoming more assertive probably won't happen overnight. Or if anger leads you to be too aggressive, you may need to learn some anger management techniques.
If despite your best efforts you're not making progress toward becoming more assertive, consider formal assertiveness training. And if certain issues such as anger, stress, anxiety or fear are getting in your way, consider talking with a mental health professional. The payoff will be worth it. By becoming more assertive, you can begin to express your true feelings and needs more easily. You may even find that you get more of what you want as a result.
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Open search bar Open navigation Submit search. Healthy living. Facebook Youtube Twitter. Home Healthy living Assertive communication. Direct Aggression Bossy, arrogant, bulldozing, intolerant, opinionated, and overbearing 2. Indirect Aggression Sarcastic, deceiving, ambiguous, insinuating, manipulative, and guilt-inducing 3.
Submissive Wailing, moaning, helpless, passive, indecisive, and apologetic 4. Characteristics of Assertiveness in Communication There are six main characteristics of assertiveness skills in communication. These are: 1. Eye Contact: Demonstrates interest and shows sincerity.
Body Posture Congruent body language will improve the significance of the message. Gestures Appropriate gestures help to add emphasis. Voice A level, modulated tone is more convincing and acceptable, and is not intimidating. Timing Use your judgement to maximise receptivity and impact.
The Importance of "I" Statements Part of being assertive involves the ability to appropriately express your needs and feelings. Six Techniques For Assertiveness in Communication There are six assertiveness techniques - let's look at each of them in turn.
Behaviour Rehearsal This is literally practising how you want to look and sound. Repeated Assertion the 'broken record' This assertiveness technique allows you to feel comfortable by ignoring manipulative verbal side traps, argumentative baiting and irrelevant logic while sticking to your point.
Examples "I would like to show you some of our products" "No thank you, I'm not interested" "I really have a great range to offer you" "That may be true, but I'm not interested at the moment" "Is there someone else here who would be interested? Fogging This technique allows you to receive criticism comfortably, without getting anxious or defensive, and without rewarding manipulative criticism.
An example of this could be: "I agree that there are probably times when I don't give you answers to your questions. Negative Enquiry This assertiveness technique seeks out criticism about yourself in close relationships by prompting the expression of honest, negative feelings to improve communication. Negative Assertion This assertiveness technique lets you look more comfortably at negatives in your own behaviour or personality without feeling defensive or anxious, this also reduces your critics' hostility.
An example would be: "Yes, you're right. Workable Compromise When you feel that your self-respect is not in question, consider a workable compromise with the other person. An example of this assertiveness technique would be: "I understand that you have a need to talk and I need to finish what I'm doing.
Conclusion Assertive behaviour is a useful communication tool. Ziege When you match consumer psychology with effective communication styles you get a powerful combination.
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